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My Big Fat Uyghur Wedding: Reception [Videos]

June 4 | 8 Comments

A view of the Uyghur banquet hall used for this Xinjiang wedding The time on my watch showed 6:55pm Beijing time. Exactly 24 hours earlier my involvement in this Uyghur wedding had begun and things were finally coming to a head in the building in front of me. Everybody was arriving to enjoy the final act of this Uygur wedding: the grand reception.

I arrived at the steps of the People’s Banquet Hall about 5 minutes before the bride and groom drove in. It was located near the center of town along the edge of a predominantly Uyghur neighborhood nicknamed “3-8”. It was designed to host both Han and Uyghur events, but it’s my guess that most every wedding booked here was Uyghur.

A view inside the Uyghur banquet hall showing the dance floor I have been to a couple different Uyghur wedding receptions and many of them are set up similarly. This particular hall was divided into two floors with a large, open space in the middle. Most of this space was taken up by a dance floor while the rest was filled with large, round tables for the guests.

At the front of the hall was a stage where the wedding musicians would play and in the middle, off to the side, was an ornately decorated section with only one table. It was here where the bride and groom sat along with their best man and maid of honor.


Most interesting to me during my first Uyghur wedding was realizing that I couldn’t sit with my wife. An invisible line divided the entire hall down the middle segregating it by sex. Never did the Uyghur on the first floor, Han on the second two meet unless it was on the dance floor.

The gender segregation was further arranged by age, so that the younger and older generations were tables apart. Naturally anybody over the age of 40 sat as far away as possible from the blaring speakers, while those who were younger tended to be more reckless with their hearing. I opted for the middle and ended up stuffing wads of tissue in my ears. So loud!

Finally, segregation appeared in one other way which I expected but was still surprised to see: ethnicity. Most Han present were business associates or family friends, but they were small in number. Nobody on the first floor was Han. Nobody on the second floor was Uyghur. Never did the two meet, even on the dance floor.

Entrance of the Bride and Groom

The party didn’t begin until the bride had finished changing into her white dress. You could ask me why she didn’t just wear that dress to the reception hall but I couldn’t tell you the answer. Once The red silk laid out in front of the entrance the bride was ready, however, the rest of the wedding blew by so quickly I had trouble keeping up.

A red silk “carpet” was laid at the front of the door with people lined up on both sides. The moment the couple entered, the music started, confetti poppers were blown and the red silk fabric was torn to shreds. It was the most bizarre thing!

Oddly, instead of watching the bride and groom find their seats, many guests played a game of tug-of-war with the silk fabric. The silk obviously tore and each guest was clambering to get their own small “good luck” wedding favor.

Meanwhile, the moment the bride and groom found their seats the kitchen doors opened and food began to pour out.

Eat. Dance. Rinse. Repeat.

I’ve never felt comfortable dancing with another man. Unfortunately for me this seems to be an integral part of Uyghur culture.

Learn more about Uyghur Dancing…

The stage in the banquet hall was manned by two men – one singer and one keyboard player (with background tracks) – and they never failed to play songs that drew guests to the dance floor. The tables were stacked with plenty of food but I never got the feeling that anybody much cared. The wedding was about dancing.

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The Uyghur form of dancing looks very simple. It consists of broad arm and hand gestures with very little contact between partners. All it takes, however, is one awkward foreigner on the floor to understand that what looks simple may not always be simple. My focus was so concentrated on the movement of my hands and arms that I didn’t have time to notice my two left feet.

Family Formalities

At the appropriate time the music fell silent and the bride and groom were ushered to the middle of the floor. It was at this point that quite a few significant family events took place.

  • The grooms mother lifts the bride's veil at a Uyghur wedding The wedding rings, which weren’t exchanged during the “nikka” (earlier wedding ceremony), were given to the bride and groom by the mothers.
  • The groom’s mother finally lifted the bride’s veil, supposedly signifying an acceptance of the bride into the new family.
  • Small gifts were given by the, including a doppa for the groom and a beautiful red silk now worn by the bride.

Again, I was completely amazed by the lack of physical contact between the bride and groom up to this point. There had been no kiss and even while standing for photos like the one below, they didn’t even hold hands.

It wasn’t until their first dance that I finally saw my friends smile and physically touch each other. I was relieved because the straight faces they had been wearing all day did not reflect their usually congenial attitudes. This was their wedding, and it doesn’t matter what culture you come from…I believe this should be a happy day!

The Last Dance

The night was slowly beginning to wind down, and although everything was happening so quickly I realized that I was exhausted. Once the family formalities had been taken care of, most of the old folks were making their exit, leaving the dance floor exclusively in the hands of the younger crowd.

The bride and groom kicked off this second round of dancing surrounded by their friends who were holding sparklers.

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It’s worth mentioning again that this description of a Uyghur wedding is based on only a couple weddings in one particular city in Xinjiang. More money was obviously spent on this wedding than would probably be spent on most and the format of the city wedding differs from that of a rural one.

No matter what kind of Uyghur wedding you attend, however, I guarantee that you’ll leave with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and respect for the people that make up this half of Xinjiang.  I know I did.

Check out the beginnings of this 4-part series on Uyghur Weddings:

  1. The Bachelor Party
  2. The Ceremony
  3. The Parade
  4. The Celebration (Reception)

About Josh Summers

Josh is a writer, musician and entrepreneur who currently resides in Urumqi, capital of China's western province of Xinjiang. He has been traveling and writing about this region since 2006 and has no plans to stop in the near future.

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  1. Your vivid description of Uyghur weddings brings to mind my experiences attending a few Uyghur weddings in Kashgar. Great times!


  2. The bride in particular is supposed to act quite grim in front of wedding guests. It’s a long standing tradition in most Central Asian cultures that women marry outside of their locality and the groom and his kin come and take the bride away from her village to his. The whole loud convey thing is a holdover from before when they used walk or caravan to the brides village and carry her off on a donkey, litter, or rug. This is supposed to be a tragic and disruptive time for the bride and “back in the day” the woman usually was genuinely crying hysterically and fighting the people who came to literally carry her off. Now it’s more a matter of etiquette for the bride to look like she’s having a really crappy time, but again, it’s considered a show of respect to her parents and her family. In the weddings I’ve been to the groom always looks rather gloomy too but I think that’s just a natural side effect of the bride looking and acting like she’s down in the dumps.


    Josh on June 4th, 2010 at 10:18 pm

    Ha! Yea, I’d be pretty depressed if my bride looked like she was having a crappy time at our wedding.

    That makes sense and I’ve heard bits and pieces of those traditions before but never all together. Thanks for the background info.


  3. This do was definitely more elaborate than the one I went to in Kashgar. But many elements were the same, such as the style of dancing (which reminded me of Egyptian parties).

    There was also man on man dancing, but I had been used to that as it was also common among Han back in 1999 (don’t really see that anymore).

    These posts make me nostalgic for the Northwest. Best I can do for now is hang out on a street of Xinjiang restaurants in Shenzhen.


  4. Thank you for sharing this wedding with us. Except for a few minor differences for e.g time of nikkah this ceremony could have been from any muslim country.What I found moving was that the groom’s mother cried at her son’s moving out of the nest usually it is just the brides family.


    Josh on June 8th, 2010 at 11:21 am

    I’m glad you enjoyed. This, along with a couple other Xinjiang weddings, are the only Muslim ceremonies I have attended. It was quite an eye-opening experience for me and it makes sense that it would be similar to others in the Central Asian area.


    Shatgul on April 18th, 2014 at 11:52 am

    Thanks for sharing! It is fun to read your perspective of my culture! :) Can’t wait to go back!!

    Josh Summers on April 19th, 2014 at 2:31 am

    My pleasure, Shatgul! Hope you’ll be able to get back here soon :)

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